How to Connect With Your Tribe


When I announced last week that I was going to stop publishing an ezine, the response was strong, and mixed. It led to some juicy conversation in the comments on that post, and a lot of personal emails that really touched me.

I know many of you will miss getting the ezine or the full blog post with your email. I feel badly about that. And I know that if you read your email on a mobile device, that makes clicking through and reading the blog online more of a hassle.

But here’s the thing. I want more from you. You all are my tribe. I want to do what I can to encourage you to join the conversation on this blog, because that will make the blog a richer resource for everyone.

I’m also hoping that for most of you, the new way will be more respectful of your time, because there is less coming into your inbox.
How coaches can connect with their tribes

Tribes Need Connection

All this has got me thinking about how coaches connect with their markets. What kind of relationship do coaches want with the people we serve?

It’s become fashionable to talk about business in terms of tribes, but if you haven’t checked out the source of that trend – Seth Godin’s brilliant book Tribes – I recommend it. The message is: business leadership is not about building factories anymore, and it’s not about using advertising to push an idea on people. It’s about connecting like-minded people and leading them to a place they want to go.

By Godin’s definition, a group of people needs only two things to be a tribe: a shared interest and a way to communicate. So the lesson is, if you want to strengthen your tribe, help them communicate.

People working together are smart – smarter than the smartest individual members of the group. Whatever generates connection within the tribe helps to release this collective intelligence. That’s why I like live training environments better than canned ones, and blogs better than ezines.

I’m not dissing ezines. There are some great ones out there that I always look forward to reading. But blogs can help a tribe connect and communicate.

Are You Connecting Your Tribe?

I’m suggesting that you think of your coaching niche as a tribe. Of course, not just any tribe will do. A coaching niche needs more than a shared interest and a way to communicate, to be a viable market.

But once you’ve settled on a profitable niche to serve, it’s useful to ask yourself how you can treat them as your tribe. How can you help them connect and communicate? How can you help lead them where they want to go? This is what I call championing your coaching market.

A blog is not the only way.

  • Social media and online forums are made for this. You don’t have to build the platform. If you bring people together, and add valuable content, you are helping your tribe communicate.
  • Mastermind groups also qualify. So do other group events, face-to-face or by telephone, if you are hosting a conversation that matters to your niche, and giving them an opportunity to contribute.
  • If your coaching programs are based on listening to your market to find out what they really want, you are helping to lead them where they want to go.

But a blog is one of the best ways, because when you build a blog, you are building a platform where your tribe can come together. That adds value in itself, over and above the valuable content you provide.

What about you? When you think of serving your niche, do you think about how you can help them connect and communicate? How do you champion your tribe?

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  • http://www.starpolisher.com Carol Hess

    Rhonda, I appreciate that you are making changes in your business to help your tribe connect and communicate with each other. It may not be a completely popular change (most of us aren’t hugely comfortable with change, are we?), but I think it is one that will serve all of us well. Together, in conversation and communication, we can accomplish so much more than by ourselves.

    That’s my guiding principle in my new venture, http://www.starpolisher.com. I’m a breast cancer survivor, and self care and a healthy lifestyle are crucial for me to remain cancer-free. They are quite literally the difference between life and death. But I still struggle like crazy with making healthy choices for myself.

    So at http://www.starpolisher.com I am blogging about that struggle (hopefully with a little bit of humor and a whole lot of attitude). I’m counting on my self care tribe-to-be (can’t wait to meet all of you) to show up at starpolisher so together we can accomplish what we find difficult to accomplish by ourselves. If we polish each other’s stars, then that’s a whole heck of a lot of light that’s going to be shining!

    In other words, to use your AMAZING words, Rhonda, I hope starpolisher will be a place that will “connect like-minded people and lead them(us) to a place they(we) want to go.” There is power in connection, conversation, and community. And where better to grab hold of that power than at your friendly, neighborhood blog?

    I’m looking forward to connecting with the coaching tribe here at one of my favorite, friendly neighborhood blogs, Prosperous Coach. :) Thanks for a terrific post, Rhonda.

  • http://www.starpolisher.com Carol Hess

    Rhonda, I appreciate that you are making changes in your business to help your tribe connect and communicate with each other. It may not be a completely popular change (most of us aren’t hugely comfortable with change, are we?), but I think it is one that will serve all of us well. Together, in conversation and communication, we can accomplish so much more than by ourselves.

    That’s my guiding principle in my new venture, http://www.starpolisher.com. I’m a breast cancer survivor, and self care and a healthy lifestyle are crucial for me to remain cancer-free. They are quite literally the difference between life and death. But I still struggle like crazy with making healthy choices for myself.

    So at http://www.starpolisher.com I am blogging about that struggle (hopefully with a little bit of humor and a whole lot of attitude). I’m counting on my self care tribe-to-be (can’t wait to meet all of you) to show up at starpolisher so together we can accomplish what we find difficult to accomplish by ourselves. If we polish each other’s stars, then that’s a whole heck of a lot of light that’s going to be shining!

    In other words, to use your AMAZING words, Rhonda, I hope starpolisher will be a place that will “connect like-minded people and lead them(us) to a place they(we) want to go.” There is power in connection, conversation, and community. And where better to grab hold of that power than at your friendly, neighborhood blog?

    I’m looking forward to connecting with the coaching tribe here at one of my favorite, friendly neighborhood blogs, Prosperous Coach. :) Thanks for a terrific post, Rhonda.

    • http://prosperouscoachblog.com/ Rhonda Hess

      I love your guiding principle and your new venture idea, Carol! What a perfect way to honor yourself and others — to provide a home for powerful conversations. Here’s to http://starpolisher.com and you!

    • http://prosperouscoachblog.com/ Rhonda Hess

      I love your guiding principle and your new venture idea, Carol! What a perfect way to honor yourself and others — to provide a home for powerful conversations. Here’s to http://starpolisher.com and you!

  • http://www.feelbettertherapies.co.uk Laura Jordan

    Hi Rhonda,

    I enjoyed your videos on building a prosperous niche.

    Can you tell me a bit more about blogging? I have a newsletter – Click below for March’s “Do, or do not do..”

    http://us2.campaign-archive1.com/?u=cf792b531bcc059f5c1dca524&id=eaaf5b5eaa&e=77fe2d09e7

    (Go on, check it out – you might just be glad you did!)

    I don’t know whether I should do a blog instead, as you are doing. Don’t really know how to blog, or really what it is. Do I have my own, or just comment on other people’s?

    Thanks for your feedback.

    Laura :) http://www.feelbettertherapies.co.uk

    • http://prosperouscoachblog.com/ Rhonda Hess

      Hey Laura,

      I’ve got a bunch of blog posts about blogging in my Online Marketing for Coaches section of my blog:
      http://www.prosperouscoachblog.com/topics/online-marketing-for-coaches/page/2/
      Also, I’ll be launching my new program — Client Winning Websites & Blogs very soon and it helps you decide whether a blog is right for you and how to write the content.

      The main difference is that an ezine goes out by email and doesn’t do these three things for you:
      1. It doesn’t help build your web profile with search engines or direct people to your website.
      2. It doesn’t create community by engaging people to share their opinion, questions or ideas, as you have here.
      3. It isn’t as automated to put the word out about your blog to social networks and grown your list.

      Also, people can choose to subscribe by RSS feed for a blog and usually that’s not an option with an ezine. And WordPress blogs (which are a type of website) are so easy to set up and maintain.

      So you see, it’s a choice that has a lot of benefits. But you don’t want to wander into it without considering first whether you’ll write consistently and often.

  • http://profiles.google.com/lori.radun Lori Radun

    I think all the time about how I can get my tribe to communicate. It is so boring just talking to myself. Why would I want to do that? I want to hear from my market! I want to hear what they have to say. What is on their mind? How do they feel about particular issues? How do they feel about what I am writing? What is going on in their life? How can I support them? I am a coach. If they aren’t talking to me, how on Earth can I connect to them? I wish my market would talk, or maybe I should say, I wish I could figure out how to engage them.

    • http://prosperouscoachblog.com/ Rhonda Hess

      I am with you, Lori! So things that reap engagement from your target market are:
      1. Talk about what they care about.
      2. Ask questions and ask for response.
      3. Use Facebook to get dialogues going and point folks to your blog posts. Be sure you respond to the responses on Facebook and the comments your blog.
      4. Have a contest.
      5. Share photos and links to great stuff on Facebook and Twitter. Comment on other people’s posts — both blogs and FB.
      6. Ask people to comment on Twitter and FB whenever you have an event.

      What else, peeps? Share your ideas HERE!

  • http://www.coachingsitesthatwork.com Kenn Schroder

    If you have the resources and savvy you can do both an ezine and newsletter. Who has the time? Is it efficient?

    As I see it … the faster, easier, simpler, like minds can connect (maybe we will have wires from our heads to “the matrix” one day), the more we will be part of something bigger.

    What if, at any time, all of the people who have a lot to learn from Rhonda could have her attention one on one at any time.

    Blogs provide a fast and easy way for new coaches to create that Matrix effect. I’m sure as the web grows, there will be something even faster. Maybe even Website to Iphone face to face insta coaching or something.

    I commend all efforts to take a step in the right direction, win or lose. ;)

    Kenn
    http://CoachingSitesThatWork.com

    • http://prosperouscoachblog.com/ Rhonda Hess

      And what if we build a community and help each other? That’s when it gets REALLY fun and juicy!!!

      Anybody else ready to engage with a bunch of fine coaches?

  • http://profiles.google.com/seidalan Alan Seid

    Rhonda:
    People may miss your ezine.
    But I now have your blog RSSing straight into my Inbox.
    So – what am I missing?
    warmly,
    ~Alan

    • http://prosperouscoachblog.com/ Rhonda Hess

      Hey Alan — If you’re reading it by RSS and then going to the blog to comment, as you just did, you’re not missing a thing!